Defying Gravity with BlogHer

Have you ever wanted something so badly that you were afraid to try it simply because you were afraid to fail at it for fear that it would ruin the dream?

For me blogging ranked right up there on the top of the list! I enjoyed it, and I certainly stank at it badly enough when I started. In time it became something I really enjoyed – from the baking and photographing to the writing, and especially the friends I’ve been so fortunate to “meet” along the way.

I came to realize that I wanted more. I wanted my blog to be something more. More personal, more professional, more functional… Just more.

So I did what any self-respecting nerd would do and I researched. I researched blog design and designers, WordPress Plugins, social media, you name it and I read up on it.

And then I took the plunge! I went from this…

To this!

I was ready to take it to the next level.

For some reason I felt like getting my blog accepted by the BlogHer Publishing Network would be like receiving a giant seal of approval, that personal validation I had been seeking. As if it would somehow prove to me and to others that I really could do this.

The only problem was, well me. I was scared to pull the trigger and actually submit it to them.

What if they said no?

Then where would I be? My pride (or maybe it was purely my ego) wasn’t quite ready for that blow.

After all, this wasn’t like trying to take up knitting or something. If I tried to knit and I stank rotten eggs at it (which incidentally I do) well then I’d say, “oh well” and try something else like rubber stamping. This meant so much more to me on a personal level though, and if they said no, I felt like it would put a damper on what I had finally decided that I wanted so badly.

So what changed?

It took having one of those days, like a great hair day but for your ego, when I felt like I was ready. I’d made the changes I’d wanted to my blog, I’d researched and studied, and my photography skills were getting better. I felt like I could do it.

And not to be too corny, but it was like that song from Wicked, it was “too late for second guessing. Too late to go back to sleep. It’s time to trust my instincts, close my eyes and leap. It’s time to try defying gravity.”

And so in one quick moment, before I could change my mind, I clicked submit.

I felt strong and empowered, so full of control of my own destiny for the first time in SO long!

And then I woke up the next day. Self-doubt slowly began to creep back in as I started to question whether or not I’d completely lost my mind! (Still not totally sure on that one.) What had I done?

It was too late though. I’d submitted the blog, and there was nothing to do but wait. And wait. And wait a little more.

On January 4th, I opened my email to find a message from BlogHer waiting there in my Inbox. I was excited and scared at the same time – this was it, and there wasn’t anything else to do but to read it and face the music.

There is was!

“Greetings from the BlogHer Publishing Network! Your blog looks like a great fit for our network.”

The rest was all totally lost on me while I tried hard to quell the urge to scream for joy (since it was like 1:00 in the morning when I read it).

Looking back, it’s easy to wonder what on earth I was so scared about. Yes, they could have said no.

But if I hadn’t submitted my blog, they never could have said yes either!

*Just a note to say thank you to the people at the BlogHer Publishing Network for giving me the opportunity to be part of such an extraordinarily talented group of bloggers!

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  1. 1

    This was a great story! Your blog looks great and I totally know what you mean about it gradually changing as you learn. It is so much fun isn’t it? Congrats on your success! It is well deserved!

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    Congratulations! That’s HUGE! I joined FoodBuzz when my blog was a whole 33 days old and can hardly believe it! I remember when I got over 100 hits – I thought I was going to swoon!

    May this be merely one of MANY milestones….you deserve all the success in the world, my talented, funny, amazing friend!

  3. 5

    You’ve done a wonderful job with your blog, Jen. You deserve your everything good coming your way. (Great analogy!)

  4. 7

    Congrats! I love how excited you got and your blog looks beautiful. Love the little pics up top in the header!

  5. 9

    Very cool! You must be so excited, and all your hard work is paying off!

  6. 11

    I am so happy for you. I have heard such great things about BlogHer. I know you will continue to grow and progress with your blogging and I am glad to be able to watch it happen.

  7. 13

    Congrats! Your blog is great, how could they not accept you! I need to look into BlogHer more. I have heard good things about them. I am just being complacent because Foodbuzz is “working”

  8. 15

    Congrats! Your blog is great. No surprise that anyone would “want you” :)

  9. 17

    I have only been doing this for 6 months and I know that I’m at the bottom of the learning curve, slowly inching may way up, so I completely to relate to all of your comments. Congrats on the switch to Blogher. When confronted with the decision between the two I ended up going with Foodbuzz, mainly because I didn’t have the patience to wait till my blog was 90 days old! Your blog is beautiful Jen!

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      Isn’t there though!? As much as I’ve learned I know that there is still so much more! Thanks for the lovely compliment Valerie!

  10. 19

    Congrats! :)
    I tried lookign into BligHer, but it seems foodbuzz and BlogHr are not compatible?

  11. 21

    Hooray!!! I’m so glad (but not surprised) that your blog was accepted!!! Can you join and still be a FB featured publisher?

  12. 23

    Congrats! Well deserved!

  13. 25

    Congrats on joining Blogher!! I was juggling between Foodbuzz and Blogher and decided on Foodbuzz since it’s completely related to food and my blog was not 90 days old yet. I know Blogher is more varied and I’m sure the growth there is fabulous. It’s really worth reaching for moon sometimes… Way to go!

  14. 27

    Love the story and congrats on making another part of your dream a reality! When all the hard work, tears and sleepless nights are validated, it’s all totally worth it… Keep reaching for your dreams – cause you’re gonna reach them.

  15. 29

    Congratulations on having your blog accepted (and I totally love that song too, BTW). So happy for you!

  16. 31

    Congrats! Your blog looks amazing and you’re a wonderful writer. :) I freak out about everything with my blog, definitely feeling a makeover coming on!

  17. 33

    Congratulations, so exciting! I’m so excited for you and to see where you go with your blog!

  18. 35

    Congratulations Jennifer! I may not know your blog long enough but I’m glad I have it in my Google reader and enjoy your writings.
    Can’t wait to read more!

  19. 36

    I am so happy for you and the amazing way you have just taken off with blogging. I cannot wait to see what exciting opportunities come your way.

  20. 38

    Congrats! I love the look and definitely understand the feelings of nervousness and excitement :) You are doing seriously awesome things here. I cannot wait to see what the future brings :)

  21. 40

    Congrats on getting accepted! I applied to them last fall and got wait-listed because they were “full” and then they told me in January that I could join, but I had just signed with Foodbuzz! Oh well! You’ll have to let me know how you like it. They told me to re-apply when my contract is up if I want to switch.

  22. 42

    Congratulations Jen! So happy for you! :)

  23. 43

    Congratulations Jen!
    Sometimes we have to step out of our comfort zone to realize our personal potential. Yea for you!

  24. 44

    Congrats, that is so exciting! :) You’re right we just have to get out of our comfort zone and just do it. That’s how we grow as a person. Have a great weekend!

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